As much as your wings are expanding; you have to expand as well.”

A friend of mine recently said this to me; I quickly paused and wrote it down in my notes as I heard it. But, as I sit here now at 3AM in the airport waiting for my flight to Port-Au-Prince, it’s really sticking with me more than when he first spoke it to me.

To me, this means I have to surrender. As my wings are trying to expand; as something is at work on the inside, trying to come alive on the outside..I must submit to the process and allow myself to be expanded. I must submit to becoming a butterfly. We are all butterflies waiting to happen.


Being able to say “yes,” to God, move, and adapt anywhere when I hear direction from Him, is something that I am pretty good at. From moving to Washington, D.C. for a summer on an unpaid internship, to volunteering in Nairobi, Kenya for a month in an orphanage, moving to Los Angeles for a job offer, and now traveling to Haiti during a level 4 travel advisory due to crime, civil unrest, and, kidnapping. Of course there were worries that went through my mind, doubts that I had of the situations I was presented with..but, I heard God tell me to go. I heard God say, “you are the one.” Not being afraid to fail was present during every move. The struggles that came along with these experiences, were all worth the amount of growth that was brought upon me every time.

I always tell people around me that one of the best things that you can do for yourself; especially in your 20s, is to move away from your hometown. It’s okay to be scared. There will be times that you are scared; fear is just another natural emotion that we experience when we come upon change. Get out there, open up, make mistakes, learn, be stronger, and be willing to start all over again. I wouldn’t trade my experiences in life for nothing; including the tears, worries, trials, and tribulations. Be okay with having no idea where life is taking you, but trusting God more than anything. He will never put any burden on you that you are incapable of handling.

Never forget who your God is.

The purpose of this wasn’t to focus on the moves that I made, but more so setting ourselves free to pursue grander ambitions. 20’s are meant to be your selfish years. Be okay with leaving family, friends, lovers, and possibilities to experience the world and make deeper connections. To experience love, adventure, and freedom on a whole new level..for yourself.

Defy your fear of change, hold your head high, and do what you once thought was unthinkable; walk away. Leave it all behind, and embrace the new. The unfamiliar. Fear will never allow you to go far in life. There is no force equal to a woman determined to rise..with determination and God’s word, I challenge you to become unstoppable.

I challenge you to let go of the fear of failure.

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